"School for parents" is an initiative that, since 2007, offers several series of meetings with experts on the topic of parenting.
The meetings are for all those who care for children and teens, offering insights and opportunities to exchange ideas, support them in discovering the beauty of assisting children and young people to grow, putting education at the center in the heart of the city. Prepared by the Social Services Department of the Municipality of Padua, in collaboration with the University of Padua, Centre for Voluntary Service, the office of family ministry of the Diocese of Padua and Family Associations.
The initiative also provides for a dialogue with the families, through the collection of questions and answers from parents treated in particular by Prof. Paolo Milani of the Department of Education Science and prof. Gianpaolo From the Zuanna Department of Statistics, is published weekly on two local newspapers: "Il Mattino di Padova" on Monday and "Padova" on Friday.
ISOLATION OF NEO-MOTHER
Article published in the newspapers "The Padova" on 15/05/2009 and "Il Mattino di Padova" on 05/18/2009.
Sunday was Mother's Day, I have just become a mother of a beautiful girl, but I did not think it was so difficult ... I look around and I see all these moms happy, I see so much stress and perhaps even sad ...
This mom has not only right but also does well to express his difficulties: there is too much rhetoric pink and blue ribbons around the birth. The child who is born is not only the gift, love, wonder: this is a part, the real truth of a more complex that also includes a storm in the life of the couple, a tornado that disrupts the rhythm, the way be, roles, relationships and habits: Some mothers say that they are suddenly to be "the mistress of the son and the mother of her husband."
Mothers increasingly "elderly", given the continued rise in the average age now where does the "transition to parenthood", feel compelled to love this son: Everybody says that the love between parents and children is innate, spontaneous, immediate.
is not always the case: it must be said that love, as in a relationship, is a deep affection, not just sentiment, not mere emotion, and as with all must be built slowly in a process of mutual attention, listening, of knowledge. It is not something magical was born on the day of birth with the child, is a result of a long process.
Maybe some mothers would feel relieved if they were aware of what, when, at times around the birth, proven by experience of childbirth and the labor of care you need to tackle in the first months of life, they feel inadequate because they can not prove this great love for the child feel guilty and do not dare talk to anyone and no one speaks to them: family tragedies are born into families that show the better face the outside, what the community wants to see.
Why do we need to think that families are always happy?
Why can not we build our communities instead of speech places where you can stop for mothers isolation, give words to feelings, mend a social fabric, not to mask the difficulties, to show how fragile subjects, where it is possible to get the experience of motherhood in all its complexity, the silence and approval? Paola
Milani, Associate Professor Department of Educational Studies, University of Padova.
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